(And by "manually manipulate", she pretty much means touch yourself *wink*). "This might be a pillow between your legs, pushing your body up against the person who's receiving the blowjob, or using your own hands to manually manipulate yourself," she says. Isla suggests you could find yourself in a position where you're pleasuring yourself while pleasuring your partner. It really engages you and grounds you, instead of you thinking 'am I doing this right? OMG, my jaw is starting to hurt!'" Get comfortable. "While you're bobbing your head, there's no reason why you can't be bobbing the rest of your body as well. Isla even suggests putting some music on: "Blowjobs are really rhythmical," she says. The other bonus of being relaxed is there's less of a chance of you getting a sore neck. "There's a big difference if you're receiving a relaxed blowjob rather than one from someone who's trying to simulate a vacuum cleaner." soft, it's flexible and it moulds, and the tongue will work better." It will also change the type of pleasure the other person receives. "Relax around your jaw, your throat, and your cheeks. "You've gotta learn to relax", Jacqueline says. Think of it as a blowjob domino effect of no pleasure. Then if you're not, they probably aren't either. If you're 'in your head' thinking about whether you're doing it right, there is no way you're relaxing, and you're probably not enjoying it.
The receiver of the blowjob always loves it when the partner is enjoying themselves," she told The Hook Up.
"If you're already turned on and you want c*ck, it's a completely different experience. But Jacqueline says that if you're doing a blowjob because you think you have to, then it's not going to be pleasurable for you OR them. You'll enjoy anything more if you’re in the mood - that's a given. First of all, you've got to be in the mood! Here's what sex therapist Jacqueline Hellyer and Isla View, who teaches the 'Art of Fellatio' workshop, had to say when they were on the show. We've spoken to a couple of the most qualified professionals out there on how you can get yourself comfortable and actually enjoy it. Questions can fill your mind, 'Am I doing this right? Did I just use my teeth? What if it tastes gross?!' Well, fear no more. It's not as if you've been able to suck your own!? (If you can, get in touch.
Even if you're a guy and it's your first time getting one in your mouth, it can be daunting. Are you terrified of sucking d*ck? If you don't have one yourself, it can be quite confronting.